Adult Coloring books

7_reasons_why_adults_low_versionI love art. I love drawing and creating things out of mere supplies. It makes my heart sing and makes me peaceful. Also… it’s always reigned in my anxiety. Who would’ve thought that my love for coloring would eventually become a thing?! In and around 2013 a whole wide range of adult coloring books started coming to the surface. The reason for that is that as it had already proven on a personal level. Coloring is healing. Ha! Who would’ve thought?!?!?!

Adult coloring books are great for your mental, emotional and also intellectual health.  Did you have any idea that the “prescription” of adult coloring stems all the way back to the late and great psychologist Carl Jung? Well it did. He was always ahead of his time. Jung used it thinking it would help his patient’s access their subconscious and new self-knowledge. We now know that many psychologists suggest this to patients as an alternative to meditation, as a means of relaxation, and as a calming tool. It can help the individual focus on the act of coloring intricate pictures for hours on end, vs. focusing on intrusive and troubling thoughts. An activity that can invoke the easier and happier times of childhood. A time when we did not have as many responsibilities, and could just do something because we wanted too, for the pure joy of it. To be able to tap into this time and these emotions is very cathartic and enjoyable. It can take you out of your present stresses and worries for even a few hours at a time, which can have an exceptionally recuperative effect.

pattern_play_coloring_book_065A great thing about coloring is that, unlike some hobbies, it’s easy to get into. You can do it anywhere and all you need is a design and some colored pencils. I have a couple of coloring books personally, one small one that fits easily into my purse (thanks to a great friend of mine) and a bigger one with more intricate designs that I keep by my desk.

If, at the end of the day, you really feel the need to relax and get away from it all-simply bring out your crayons and coloring book or download some coloring pages. This will surely help you get out and away from it all and help you relax and unwind. I’m grateful there’s now studies to prove that art does indeed have health benefits and am happy to see that these studies are increasingly helping people simmer down and reign in their anxieties, just like they have for me!

 

Happy coloring – With love,

Pixie xo

 

 

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Finding that Inner Strength

20e1c06e840e1df8ff2c993fe44ad6abWe’ve had a tougher go of it these last few months. With my health being wonky and not knowing what’s going on and all it’s been one uncertainty after another. But something I have learned in the last few months is, that our loved ones ARE there to support us and help us. And if I am having a bad day, I can message and whine to them and they’ll tolerantly and most lovingly listen and let me lean on them. (Thank you to those amazing souls in my life that keep holding me when I need the hand!!! I love you!)

I’ve found strength in myself I didn’t know I possessed through this process. I’ve learned that our human bodies are quite fragile and that pushing them through overworking and always doing will eventually somehow catch up with us. As yet, I don’t know what my health issues exactly are, I do know that when I sit still (in meditation or other quiet activities) I feel relatively okay.

So today, for today, let’s focus on one thing at a time, let’s learn how to lean on that inner strength in times of trouble, because as we know, those storm clouds do gather in our lives, and life isn’t always sunshine. It is though our job to learn how to dance when it pours and how to embrace all seasons and all the weathers of life! There will be days when it doesn’t feel like you’re ever going to be strong enough to weather these storms, but I promise you, as I’m in the midst of my own storms that we’re never given more in life than we can handle, even when we have to dig deep into our most inner selves to find this strength. Every hour of every day, people are pushed to question if they’ll ever feel normal again. This and wanting to help people with this is why I hold on to being an Empath and not let the world make me hard but also this is why I share my personal self with you, that even though I’m a very spiritual, loving person, one who always sees the silver lining, I too have terrible tough days. Here are some things though that have helped me through those tough days.

When you’re having a hard time, remind yourself of all the days before that you’ve survived. Your survival record is 100% for crazy hard days! Congratulations on that!!! You’re doing amazing!!!!! Practice seeing yourself rise above the pain, looking back and peering forward at the values, experiences and goals of your whole life. Remind yourself that you are bigger than this, and that you will get back to you again. You can always rely on your support system, those closest to you. Even when they live further away, with technology being amazing, you can message them and ask for some encouragement. I promise, even when you feel like you’re intruding, they will help you stand back up.  Ask them to remind you of your strengths and listen to them. That is why these blessed relationships are in your life, and one day, you might do the same for them.

I’ve also found that when I’m extremely overwhelmed it helps tremendously to just find time for myself. Whether I have a bubble bath, or read for a while or just simply sit in meditation, carving time to ground yourself back to your roots is tremendously helpful in this. Carving out time to do the things you’re really good at is vital right now. It will help you remember that you have great talents beyond your personal crisis. That there is great positive things in your life. For myself, I’ve picked up drawing and crocheting again during this time alongside my writing and music. I haven’t been able to sing as it is too much for my head to handle but that doesn’t stop me from humming or quietly singing along.

And finally, lean on your inner guide. They are your strongest supporter and they will always be there to help ground and guide you. Ask for spiritual guidance, comfort and grounding in your journey. Stay open to receiving divine gifts in the most wonderful, surprising ways, and believe that you deserve them when they show up. Meditate. Pray. Be mindful. Trust that you are going to move past this thing and that the universe wants that for you as well.

Lots of Love,

Pixie xo

 

The day after the U.S. Election

I am going to refuse to write anything about the election. There is much to be considered and each person has their own opinions. Just remember to love a little more, pray and meditate a little more, and be kind and mindful in all your daily adventures.

My goal today is to write for my Novel Manuscript and also I’ve got to whip up some crochet dice bags for friends of mine that play DnD and kindly asked if I could make some. Browsing patterns online for these I thought I’d share them with you.

This is a beautiful pattern for a Dragon Scale Dice Bag by Alyssa Lou blogger-image-49444706

Really she did a most stunning job on this little bag and it’s precisely what I was imagining for these boys.

mindfulnessCrocheting, drawing and writing has meditative effects for me. They are calming, and soothing to me. I simply focus on those activities at the time and allow my mind to be still except for the tasks at hand.

Meditation doesn’t have to mean you just sit and do nothing. Controlling your breath, calming your body and soul can be done during regular day to day activities as well. Being mindful throughout your days will bring you into the present moment. I have made most of my daily activities into ways to be mindful. Simply living in the now for a period greatly reduces anxiety and “what if’s” that will most likely never happen.

For the next few days, simply start by being mindful during your daily activities.

mind·ful·ness
ˈmīn(d)f(ə)lnəs/
noun
  1. 1.
    the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.
    “their mindfulness of the wider cinematic tradition”
  2. 2.
    a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

When sitting at your desk, if you notice you’re slouching, sit up straight, relax your face, neck and shoulder muscles and simply take 5 deep breaths.

Cooking offers a variety of ways to be mindful. You can hone your attention in on your own movements, the sounds in the kitchen, the taste of the food you are preparing, or the aromas of the different spices as they cook.

Using your phone alarm throughout the day at random intervals can help remind you to bring your focus back to breath. We get so caught up with our daily lives that breathing often becomes something we hardly focus on. Taking a minute when your alarm chirps to simply do a few deep breaths is a great way to be mindful of your current surroundings.

As you start seeing utilizing more techniques on mindfulness (I consider them active meditations as you still are just keeping your mind clear and only in the now.), you’ll feel more focused, you’ll breathe easier and you can move on to longer focused meditation sessions.

Love,

Pixie

 

Thoughts on Journals

Yesterday I suggested you do a list of all the things that make you happy! Did you do it? How did you feel?

Lists bring me simply, unapologetic joy. Especially happiness lists. Journaling and writing about my days and feelings is all great but making lists of all the blessings in my life and all the things that make me happy truly is a much lovelier way to end my days.

I believe in keeping some form of written record of my life that I can look back on and remember those small moments that made my heart sing, that normally would’ve been forgotten. Or leaving a legacy, something to share my life with my girls and others who care to read them once I’m gone. Hopefully down the road someone can benefit from some of the things I said within those pages.

Anyways journaling does bring a certain peace of mind. Knowing you can brain dump your mind in a safe, unhindered place, where no one will judge you. Journal writing provides mental clarity and allows you to have a better connection with your values, emotions, and goals. By journal writing about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you better understand your relationships to those things. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel. You become better at being able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes a journal such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person. How can journaling be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Love,

Pixie

Some thoughts, news and a request for help!

So Ipexels-photo-4 finally broke down this morning and created a Facebook page for my blog and my arts. I don’t share much of the artistic stuff here on my blog so if you’d like to check that part out, I’ll be posting more of that on my Facebook Page.

My lovely editor has informed me, she’s still diligently working on my book for it to be ready for my final review before publishing earlier in the Year. “The Nook Book” will be available for ebook and printed purchases and I’ll make sure to do some prize packs on it as the time draws closer too!

The Nook-Book is a small inspirational coffee-table or night stand book that is filled with simple daily inspirations to fill your spiritual self with loads of love at the start of each day or simply for when your soul needs a dash of extra Love. I started writing that book during NaNoWriMo 2015 and proceeded to only get one simple copy printed for myself as proof that I COULD indeed write a book. After many revisions and long hours pouring over my words and adding, removing and adding a little more love, I finally send it over to my editors a few weeks ago.

My goal is to work on the cover design this upcoming week and share some of my drawings as I’m working on that with you as I come up with ideas. But I’d LOVE your input!!! What would you like to see on the book cover? I’ll draw the designs and share as your thoughts come in!

Thank you in advance and I’m excited to work on this project with you.

Love,

Pixie !!!

 

8,539 words and counting!

How is your NaNo going? Are you still sticking with it?

Having been home because of my health these last few months has given me some perspective and serious time to think. I believe we take our Bodies for granted. We forget how terribly fragile we are as humans! I’ve made a vow to myself though this last few weeks. I went through a bunch of different emotions with this uncertainty and it seemed that I’d never get better. I was mourning my life style. Being busy is something I thrive in. Deadlines, appointments, people to help, kids to chauffeur, dinners to cook, house to clean. Now, I often spend my days with little activity and most of the running around has come to a sudden halt. Not because I’m tremendously ill, but because I know my body needs the slower life right now.

When our bodies get sick or are with continuous cronic pain we feel like we’ve been betrayed. We feel broken and it’s incredibly easy to slip into a mode of “poor poor me”. It’s okay to complain and it’s okay to have off days. Don’t let those be your every day though. You have to search for Love. There is always a way to see Love in each situation. There is always a silver lining, though I’ll admit sometimes those silver linings and the positive are REALLY hard to find when we’ve become ill or life has thrown us a curveball. It took me several weeks of persistent journaling and leaning on some very strong loved ones to find Love in all this uncertainty.

One day, very recently I felt VERY sorry for myself. And I was curled up in my bed and I asked myself, after taking 4 very deep breaths, What is it that I’ve not yet learned? What is it that the Universe is teaching me with this?

The answer came to me as I lay there in silence. All that time I spend overthinking, overplanning, and overdoing, while my body endured it all. Trying and often failing to get my attention until it broke down. Lacking sleep more often than not, not eating regular meals, drinking entirely too much coffee (at the time I was gulping down at least 3 pots during the day). By no means am I suggesting that all illness befalls us due to mistreating our bodies and overloading our systems by being “Busy”. Sometimes illness befalls us for no good reason, and it’s no one’s fault but even in those cases we need to slow down and go back to being a little more mindful of ourselves. In each moment during tougher times, we can chose our attitude towards it. I will share a few thoughts on how I went from resentment towards kindness during this process of not being able to work and live my busy life to the extend I’m used to.

  1. Do ONLY what you can do with certainty. Don’t overdo just because you’re stubborn and that’s the way you’ve always done things. It will not serve you and most likely your body will feel much worse after. There’s been days it took me 45 minutes to wash my dishes and wipe down the counters, simply because I had to take time to sit in between.
  2. Don’t do the things you cannot do. Simple as that. Ask for help from loved ones. If you can’t do the laundry QUIT IT ! If you can’t rake the yard, don’t do it! It’s NOT easy for me to accept that I can’t do everything on my own right now but if we let go of that stubborn pride just a little and respect our healing selves it will make the process that much simpler.
  3. Meditate. Meditation has been shown to have a tremendous amount of health benefits. Anyone can benefit here. And it’s more so true for anyone dealing with any tougher and less clear paths in their lives.
  4. REST – if you need to rest because you’re feeling drained, tired, or simply worn. Grab that smut novel you’ve been hiding in the back of your bookshelf and curl up and read. Make a cup of tea and enjoy or simply have a nap.
  5. Find enjoyable things to do that are relaxing and slow paced but bring you joy. Being ill is a pain in the a$$ (excuse my language). But it doesn’t have to be all negative. Find things you enjoy doing. I blossom when I can sit and write (HELLO NANAWRIMO), play my guitar, sing or simply draw or read. All of those are very quiet activities that don’t require a lot of energy but they allow my creative mind to keep working and they allow me to get lost in myself in a positive manner and still embrace the busy life I love without straining my body when all it’s begging for is quiet and rest while it’s healing. So surround yourself with pleasure and humor. Neither has to cost a lot.

 

Today I challenge you to make a MY FAVORITE THINGS list. I’ll do the same along side you this evening yet in my journal because HAPPY lists make me HAPPY. The list can have things like “Cookies, PB & J Sandwhiches, hugs etc” on it, whatever is your favorite. Simply write it out. Maybe doodle your favorite coffee/tea mug. Or make a doodle drawing of your cat or dog. Stick figure families! Whatever makes you happy and makes your heart sing can go on this list!
I hope you’re enjoying and thriving during your personal Novel writing time and are embracing the quieter, healing aspect of this creative outlet as I have been!

 

Lots of love

Pixie!

Things Not To Do When You Meet Someone Who Resembles Your Fictional Character #Writer #NaNoWriMo

Things Not To Do When You Meet Someone Who Resembles Your Fictional Character #Writer #NaNoWriMo

This literally had me giggling. My friend over at BlondeWriteMore truly captured this. I have indeed ran into someone who looked like a character from my book and indeed had to stop myself from hyperventilating!

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There is something magical about meeting a person in real life who resembles your fictional character.

Trust me the experience will make you take a sharp intake of breath and may even result in you being a little unsteady on your feet.

Standing in front of someone who looks and acts just like the person in your novel can be mind-blowing.

I experienced this a few days ago in a coffee shop. A man, stood in front of me in the queue, was basically one of my draft novel’s main characters; Mikey. Just like my character Mikey, this person was devilishly handsome, had an eye for the ladies and a cheeky boyish smile. Readers – I struggled to remain in control of my emotions!

After purchasing my coffee, wiping my sweaty brow and watching him like a hawk (for a period of time) I sat down and trawled Google to…

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