My favorite F-word on the planet has got to be Forgiveness. Forgiving yourself and others who may have wronged you to be exact.
Ego has this uncanny ability to run the show, she’s got so many tricks in her bag that they are countless and often she’ll jump right in especially when she sees we are happy. Then something triggers her in our surroundings and one tiny little thought will crumble our peace & love bubble.
Forgiveness is a tough subject, because often it truly feels like we can’t forgive ourselves or another person for the wrongs that occurred. Truth is, everyone messes up sometimes, forgiving them or yourself doesn’t mean you’re okay with the things that happened or that they were even right, but it does bring you back to a state of peace and love.
The process and steps to forgiveness are different and will be different for each person but to give you a rough guide I’ll share my process with you.Forgiveness is a process, don’t worry though, once you are willing to open up and be set free, your Inner Guide will be there to guide you and carry the heavy load.
- We have to recognize that we are what we see in the other person. The things that bother us most about other people are often things that are deeply buried within ourselves as well. So in order to start letting go we have to recognize and accept that.
- Recognize that past has gone and we can’t control the future. So only the present is what matters the most. Letting go and knowing that these things happened and we can no longer undo them is a solid step in the right direction. Let go of needing to be right. Gabby quoted A Course in Miracles saying, “Do you want to be right, or happy?”
- Say a quiet prayer for yourself and the person who wronged you and ask the Universe or any God of your understanding to guide you back to love and help you forgive them and yourself.Take a few deep, calming breaths.Bring this person into your mind’s eye, but be cautious not to embrace any past actions or words.
As you concentrate wish the person everything you’d want for yourself.
Imagine you both being enveloped by gold, forgiving and peaceful light.
Tell them you forgive them but also forgive yourself for hanging on to this resentment.You may have to repeat this exercise a few times, but you will truly know you’ve truly let go when you feel a positive shift in your emotions when you think of this person, and when you feel freed.
- Allow your Inner Guide to do it’s work. If you stand back and begin to observe the thoughts and opportunities your Inner Guide hands you, you will be led to forgiveness.